Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Attachment Parenting

I feel the need to post to explain the style of parenting that Jason and I feel very strongly about.

What is attachment parenting? (AP) A lot of people may have not heard of this term. The term is new (ish), but the parenting style is not.
"It's what we would do if we gave birth to our baby on a deserted island, away from the advice of well-meaning relatives and friends, away from all the wildly varying opinions in the baby books. Without the influence of culture, this is how God designed us to be. Intuitively, we feel drawn to meet our baby's need for comfort, security, connection, and closeness with such things as gentle touches, nursing, cuddles, and loving words. We want to be *there* for our baby, and we want to do what it takes to help our baby feel right. " - Gentle Christian Mothering - flowermama

The term itself was coined by Christian Pediatrician and father William Sears.

AP is about anticipating your baby's needs and responding to them. This then creates a deep bond of trust. Babies have a need for continual close contact and this is achieved by sleeping close to baby and babywearing when possible. The time in your arms/bedroom is only a short one yet the memories of love and availability last a lifetime. When babies sleep with or near their parents, especially mom, they are not being spoiled, they are being made to feel secure and accepted.
AP parents feel that:
Babies cannot be spoiled or held too much.
Babies night time needs are just as important as their day time needs.
Babies are designed to breastfeed on cue not on any type of schedule.
Feeding (breast or bottle) a baby is a time for nurturing and communicating love to baby.
Young children need gentle, positive discipline not threats of punishment and harsh words.
God has been gracious to us and we need to be gracious to our children.
A father's involvement in raising his children is vital.
Babies should not be left to "Cry it out" for any reason.
Parenting decisions should not be made based on convenience.
Breastfeeding is beneficial to toddlers as well as babies.
Children's efforts to communicate must be affirmed and valued.
Parents need to be involved, available, and empathetic.
Fear based parenting has no place in gentle, loving, Biblical discipline.
Children need an appropriate mixture of kindness and firmness in a manner that respects their feelings and their developmental, emotional, and daily needs.

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1 comment:

  1. I am sooo with you!!!!!!!! Love this blog! And yes... Mrs. Detective... we do want to adopt Dusty too! We are his Forever Family! We just didn't have a chance to post it yet!